FNO'ing in NYC

It was 6PM and I was wrapping up my day...my stomach was filled with butterflies...you know the kind you get before that first date with that REALLY cute boy who you REALLY like?!

It was my first Fashion Night Out!!!

I was a virgin and I was prepared to lose my FNO virginity that hot, muggy, cloudy night.

I was set to hang with my crew. We'd contemplated canceling all day long, when I left the house it was pouring, and had been pouring for 2 days. Who wants to walk around nyc and shop in the pouring rain? Ummm yea not so much. But as the weather cleared we decided we would forge ahead. We were set to rendezvous in Tribeca at the oh so sexy Tribeca Grand Hotel and go from there.

First Up Tracy Reese.

As we entered the door we were greeted with a glass of wine...great way to start the party with a nice cold adult beverage. Note to self, make sure Tracy Reese is on the itinerary next year. DJ Tyger Lily a hot female DJ was spinning in the front of the store, if you don't know who she is be sure to check her out AND they were inviting guests to dance in the store windows. Sorry no pics of that...that would be considered incriminating evidence ;-).

Next on our itinerary Alexander Wang and Vivienne Tam. Both cool but NOTHING compared to Tracy Reese.

Next we prepared to hit the highlight of the eve...The ShopBop Lounge where my client Alex Young was scheduled to be interviewed by famed fashion journalist Louise Roe. The tent was right in the middle of the Street on 13th & 9th, Alex did an amazing job. She is so poised and elegant oh and did I mention she did it all while walking in 6" heels...yea I know.

The party continued for a bit we stopped at the Pop Chips Carnival on 14th St, had Tacos at The Gap Taco Truck AND got $20 off gift certificates, Stopped by DVF, and then went to go have a real meal at Merchants NYC.

So next time:

1. I will wear ballet flats or sneakers. Don't ask...

2. I will build my itinerary so I can move around on foot, trying to drive was a gridlock nightmare.

3. I will set a budget in advance.

4. I will make plans with my 'crew'...we had a ball!

Photo Credit: Sweet Sugar Suge aka The Curvealicious Chronicles 'Manpert'

Photo: Etoile & Arlinda FNO'ing

Until Next Time,

Etoile

Just a Curvy Girl Living In Her Self Professed Curvy World

Attention Readers this post is not PG and it is meant for consenting adults only!

Below please find the latest musings from our manpert Sweet Sugar Suge. When I read this post it struck a cord…as a young woman I struggled trying to figure out that ‘elusive’ secret, the one my 10 year old niece is wondering “I really like him, how do I get him to like me back. I struggled with my own personal boundaries. I bent over backwards to please the guys that I dated. What I have some to realize as a grown woman is that we set the stage for how we are treated by how we treat our selves and how we allow others to treat us. What advice I gave to my niece the other night and applies to any woman at any age is you are already perfect just the way you are and always treat yourself with respect the right boy will come along sooner than later. Ahhh the innocence of puppy love.

So you asked and we found a manpert to answer, without any further ado this is what the fellas are really thinking!

Enjoy,

Etoile

Ahhhhh yes, sup ladies?! Sweet Sugar Suge here back in the building giving y'all the 'skinny' on what goes on in the heads of men while walking a fine line and trying to do my best not to break the 'bro code'. It gets really tough for me sometimes, because I'm constantly put in a position that requires me to 'keep it real' with the fellas but at the same time my loyalty lies more with the ladies. I’m sorry, but I grew up in a single parent home and was raised primarily by my mom and my aunts (like a million of them) and my Nana helped out big time too. So, while I’m here blogging and posting as a man, I so closely relate to the ladies and understand their perspective a lot more than the typical man does.

I’m bout to get grown up on y’all for a second. DISCLAIMER: if you’re not an adult , please stop reading here!!!

I know we all heard the phrase, 'lady in the street & fr#@k in the sheets’ right? ok, so here’s what you didn’t know..... there IS a such thing as TOO FR@#$Y. As much as every man in the world would love to admit that his woman does everything he requests to fulfill his fantasy, none of them would be able to say it and be telling the truth. The IDEA of my lady doing absolutely everything imaginable to keep my satisfied is a grand one, but the actuality is scary as crap! I want her to have limits, I want to feel like she's gotta be coaxed into some things, and not just give in right away. Because the second a request is made that may seem outlandish to us and the lady readily complies, our mind starts wondering..... 'hmmmmm, she’s waay to comfortable with this'…lol… #REAL TALK.

I don’t care if you guys have been together forever, he loves the idea that there are just some things you wont do, some boundaries that just wont be crossed. Too fr@#ky is an avenue that once gone down, there is no return. Idk, and plus we have that whole 'we must conquer' thing going on internally and when you say 'no', we have to do absolutely everything in our power to convince you to say 'yes'. That’s how we feel accomplished. Don’t get me wrong, have fun, experiment, but don’t get ridiculous. I’ve heard stories that are just retarded to the point where the dude telling it actually said 'now that I can hear myself say it, I don’t even know if I want to be with somebody that’ll do that!' My hand to god!

Here’s something crazy... the worst is when a request is made that may be off the wall to him but you don’t find odd at all. That’s a sticky situation... because here he is thinking 'yea, she’s not going to do it, she’s not going to do it and you say 'ok, lets do that' and then 'can we do that again'.. Ladies you don’t want to be her. I’ve mentioned previously, too much of anything is bad for you and often times less is more. You absolutely want to keep his interest, and to be honest you don’t want to say 'no' to too many things…lol… but you also want to keep it fresh and let him have the idea or thought that you won’t just do anything he asks because you love him. He wants you to have self respect and as much as you tell him 'its his' he loves knowing that ultimately its 'yours' and you have the power. I mean c'mon, we know who calls the shots. We know what’s what, and it doesn’t need to be said. He loves that you'll consider it and even if you won’t, just tell him you will... football season is coming and he'll probably forget about it anyway. Idk how many men read this post, but if you can keep a secret, I can too! My loyalty lies with you women. Y’all are the ones that are there for me and take care of me when i need it. So I'll scream and shout with the fellas all day, but then I go home and secretly guest blog with the hope that they wont log onto CURVEALICIOUS.BLOGSPOT.COM hahahaha.

So keep him happy ladies the best you can, but most importantly respect yourself and do what makes you happy at the same time. We all have to bend sometimes, we all have to compromise sometimes.... there’s a time and place for everything…even getting your freak on…those times are when you’re in college and bachelorette parties…

Hope ya’ll enjoyed and learned a lil something that you didn’t already know. Big S/O to my family Etoile for letting me get loose and entertain y’all for however long it took y’all to read this. We appreciate your attention and time. Get wit cha later ladies.

$weet $ugar $uge
Twitter @sweetsugarsuge
www.sweetsugarsuge.blogspot.com

Photo Credit: Rowena Husbands, Blink of An Eye Photography

Musings From Our Manpert! Sweet Sugar Suge!

Ladies ladies ladies! It wasn't my intention to be away from y'all for so long but I'm glad I'm back! Hope you guys have been enjoying the interviews posted on The Curvealicious Chronicles by the sweet and curvy Etoile, I know I have. So, while racking my brain figuring out what info I would be able to relay to the ladies and not break the "Bro Code", I thought of a survey. I went to some of my social network sites and posed this question to men and women alike:

What are the 3 most important qualities you require in a significant other?

I had no idea what to expect, but what I didn't expect is for the women to jump in as hard and quickly as they did. I swear, it seemed like they were waiting for me to ask that question because the feedback from them was extremely well thought out and actually seemed scripted. Lol.

The fellas answered in typical "man" fashion.... I have to admit, I was pretty impressed with both parties.

Now for my thoughts on this whole thing... Men and women aren't as different as you may think, in a sense we're the same with different organs. We feel the same feelings and emotions, with women being super eager to express their feelings and men a little more reserved about sharing. One thing is for sure though... We all want to be happy. Surprisingly enough, the front running answers for the question posed are: respect, loyalty, honesty, sense of humor, god fearing, romantic, confidence without arrogance, compassion, faithfulness, creativity, sexiness, & brains.

If you ask me, I believe the survey was a great success. I'm doing my best to bridge the gap between the sexes, we all need to be closer. What shocked me more than anything is how both sexes want the exact same things in their mate of the opposite sex. Its crazy! Its crazy how we can all want the same thing but we still have difficulty finding it. Its crazy how every single R&B or love song is either about being in love, falling out of love or wanting love.

All the answers are there. We all feel the same way about what we want in a mate yet every woman is complaining that there aren't any good men out there and every man is complaining that there aren't any good women. I bet I can name one thing that will end all complaints about the opposite sex. Ready? TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY THAT YOU WANT PEOPLE TO TREAT YOU. Follow this simple rule and you're on your way! Of course you can't control what anyone other than yourself is going to do, but you can control whether or not you allow them to do it to you. Don't wait around putting up with someones crap because you fear that nothing else is out there. Be happy with YOU and your life and everything else will fall into place. Respect one another and you'll be surprised how things end up working out...

Hope you guys enjoyed the post and thanks to everyone that participated in the survey, I had fun doing it. A few women made mention that they're curious as to what 3 things $weet $ugar $uge believes are most important in his significant other... here ya go:

My lady has got to respect my "ME" time
My lady has got to be able to burn that kitchen down!
My lady has got to have CURVES

Why did I leave out respect, brains, sense of humor, beauty, etc? Because if those things aren't present in a woman then she wouldn't even be a candidate to begin with. Oh I am NOT superficial/shallow.

Thanks for reading.

Til next time ladies!
$weet $ugar $uge

Twitter: @sweetsugarsuge

Photo Credit: Rowena Husbands of Blink of An Eye Photography; blinkofaneyephotographyonline.com

Introducing!! Suge!!

I consider myself to be a supa dupa smart and savvy curvy. I am intelligent, articulate, cultured and yet one thing has baffled me my entire life...men. So as I sat furiously wracking my head to decide what info many curvy girls would find invaluable I decided some 'real talk' from a resident manpert (man + expert = manpert) fit the bill!

And so my curvefriends allow me to introduce Sweet Sugar Suge!!!

Suge a gifted MC, voice over artist, actor, hecka funny guy and all around entertainer from New Jersey will be a featured blogger on The Curvealicious Chronicles. Suge will dish on what curvy girl's wants to know...what lies within that deep dark unknown...the heads and hearts of men.

Be sure to check Suge out on:

www.sweetsugarsuge.blogspot.com

www.Twitter.com @sweetsugarsuge

And of course on The Curvealicious Chronicles!

Until Next Time,

Etoile

Just a Curvy Girl Living in Her Self Professed Curvy World!!

Photo Credit: Rowena Husbands, Blink of An Eye Photography